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Today, I want to help you take another step on your journey of self-discovery. But first, let me ask: have you ever felt like you had everything it took to get that promotion at work, but it just didn’t happen? Have you ever felt intimidated in a meeting where you knew just as much—or even more—than everyone else? Have you ever held back from answering a question in class because you were too embarrassed to stand out? Have you ever said “yes” when you wanted to say “no” because you were afraid to voice your opinion?

Over time, I realized that mastering three pillars related to how I presented myself could completely change how others perceived me—along with my self-esteem, confidence, and even my results.

I'm talking about image, posture, and communication. Our body language, the words we use, our actions, and even the colors we wear all speak for us. And for our overall presentation to make sense, we need to balance these pillars. Otherwise, we come across as inconsistent or unconvincing.

Taking care of your image doesn’t mean wearing expensive clothes, designer shoes, or buying a new bag every week. I’d say the first step is... to thoroughly clean your room, your closet, and your bathroom. Yes, exactly! Let me explain.

You know that piece of clothing that hasn’t fit in years—or that still fits but doesn’t represent your style anymore? That empty cosmetic bottle you never threw away? That bath towel that’s no longer soft, or the pillow that annoys more than it comforts? Let them go! Sort out what needs to be trashed, donated, or sold—just let it go! If that item/clothing/book has already served its purpose in your life, release it. Let go of anything that no longer aligns with who you are or who you're becoming. That way, you allow energy to flow—and make space for new things that reflect your current self. Spoiler: a good “clean-up” of your relationships can also do wonders—because not everyone is truly rooting for you, and not everyone will accompany you on your journey of growth. But that’s a conversation for another time.

Your room, bathroom, and wardrobe are where your day ends and begins. So make it a priority to invest time in them—to nurture your self-care routines, ensure quality sleep, and start the day on the right foot, with high energy. Waking up relaxed, having a calm breakfast, and leaving the house unrushed makes a huge difference.

Let’s do a quick exercise. Close your eyes and imagine waking up after a night of tossing and turning in an uncomfortable position. You shower with a towel that feels rough on your skin. You’re searching for that favorite lipstick or perfume, but the bathroom is so messy you can’t find it. Now you’re trying to pick an outfit (among many!), but nothing feels right. You take so long to get dressed that you end up running out the door, forget your phone, have to go back to get it, and leave the house in a rush! Total chaos!

Okay, now imagine this instead: after a long (and yes, tiring—but that’s okay) workday, you come home to a bed that’s neatly made, clean, and fragrant. You sleep like a baby. In the morning, you use a towel that’s gentle on your skin. You take a few minutes to wash your face and brush your hair. A little moisturizer. Picking an outfit is easy because your wardrobe now reflects who you are—it no longer confuses you. Fresh coffee. You leave the house early, feeling light and ready.

Do you think your day would feel the same in both scenarios? I can assure you—it wouldn’t! Your energy as you face the day ahead will be totally different in the second scenario. The situations may be the same, but your results will improve—because you transformed your environment!

Alright, now you’re ready to go! But not just any way. Let’s talk about posture. I’ll keep this brief, but pay close attention—the message is powerful. There’s no point in spraying lavender on your pillow at night or discovering which colors flatter your skin tone if you walk around as if the weight of the world is on your shoulders. What kind of authority do you convey if you move like you're dragging chains—and worse, if you hardly ever smile, as if you're closed off to everything and everyone?

I once read a book by Jordan Peterson that really struck me—12 Rules for Life. The first rule he explains is: “Stand up straight with your shoulders back.” Peterson says that standing tall sends a physical message of confidence and power and even boosts serotonin production. This helps you feel less anxious, more encouraged, and more alert. He even draws a parallel to nature, using lobsters as an example.

Serotonin governs emotional regulation and posture in lobsters, just like in humans. It’s like a natural antidepressant. If a lobster loses a dominance fight, giving it “antidepressants” can make it fight again. Lobsters can move up in their dominance hierarchy by adjusting serotonin levels. And guess what? Lobsters that stand tall and spread their claws confidently appear bigger and win over those that crouch down in battles over shelter. So... what kind of lobster are you? Take your posture seriously.

Finally, let’s reflect on the messages you send through your actions and behavior. There’s no use working on your image and posture if you don’t greet the building’s doorman, if you deliberately run red lights, or if you take credit for someone else’s idea without giving them the recognition they deserve. Respect is the foundation of elegance.

We’re human, and that means we’re imperfect. So no, we don’t need to chase perfection. But if we want sustainable, long-term results—and we’re genuinely working on transforming ourselves—we need to give our best. Ethics and courtesy are signs of character—don’t forget that.

Another crucial point about communication: are you studying, reading books, joining a debate club, or doing anything to expand your knowledge in your field (or the one you want to work in)?

And to top off your powerful arrival, be open to learning—and also to sharing what you know, helping those around you.

I invite you to work on these three pillars—image, posture, and communication—and I’m confident that everyone (especially you) will finally know who you really are and what you truly stand for. In other words, what message you're sending out to the world.